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I dont know what to do or say to her. NO money for vehicles, NO money for college, NO money for wedding, NO money for house downpayment: NOTHING. I have made suggestions in the past about at least keeping track of spending and I think over time I will become more insistant. Another parent (parent 2) is not married and has worked as little as possible. I am just very concerned because I know that they will not have enough money to retire and will become a huge burden on my family. more than $20,000 in taxes a year They have $8 in their checking account, but more than $3000 of financial obligations this month if they are to keep the house, phone and cars. If I just give her $ then I exacerbate her behavior. I have to say no I would not. I am so tired of the comments that group people into generalizations like baby boomer let alone the premise of this article; making excuses for poor, selfish, or irresponsible choices that continuously and severely impact the lives of all family around the couple. I wouldnt wish this situation on anyone! Fact is, we would have inherited his debt. The key to a good marriage is good communication, and there are few issues that rely on good communication more than money issues. and yet I feel guilty. Its funny how most of the people who are shocked anyone would even consider not helping have responsible or hard working parents. My struggle is that one of my parents has always been stubborn about work ethic and spending habits. Then once you are on solid ground youll have plenty to take care of others with. Its not fair if a parent wont discuss their finances with you. I hear youi was youngest went to work at 14, oldest two moochers tell them get out or pay up no if and buts its what my parents had to do . If I were in a situation where my parents are consciously or unconsciously not taking financial responsibility for themselves while they still can and end up with nothing, the least that I would do is make sure they have food to eat and roof over their heads. The IRS has a lien on her house, which is falling apart and her homeowners association is suing her due to the homes appearance. But what happens if the son withdraws support and leaves him having to fend for himself. One credit card still checks my report about every 6 months (I think its to ensure I wasnt just trying to get out of a true debt). Now I have to do their retirement planning for them. Thanks for all the support on my issue!! there are several excellent websites written by adult children of mooching (narcissistic) parents. So fed up with MOOCHERS!!! What to Do With a Financially Irresponsible Beneficiary Parents dont want to be controlled by their children um yeah, ok, fair enough. Dealing with financially irresponsible family members is never simply resolved by opening your checkbook. I retired early through financial responsibility even with having less than a 6 figure salary. Every single one of those things was a mistake. No unemployment, no savings, only a broken down vehicle that was sold cheap. My father gambled his entire life. I have no savings. We are self-sufficient, saving for retirement, and working on paying off debt. I can relate. My in-laws are completely financially irresponsible. If someone is not willing to take the necessary steps to help themself, there are only so many ways I can help. I wasnt able to find another job in time as there was a hiring freeze in the company. So did she just assume we would handle it?! I was like WOW, really you ungrateful piece of shit.The reason he was so angry was because my brother is a drug addict and alcoholic and because I never would let him live with me and prior to that he had been still living with my parents and was homeless the whole time they were living with me, but I have children and would NEVER let a drug addict who says inappropriate and does inappropriate things around my children in my house for very long EVER, so he took it as I am evil for not having more compassion for dealing with the mess he created as an unsuccessful father in that regard. People who have children to take care of them when they are older are bottom feeders! Set Clear Financial Goals: Establishing clear financial goals and expectations is the first step in dealing with a financially irresponsible spouse. Of course most people would help their parents if they needed help as long as they have not purposely blown their savings. Ilyce, I too enjoyed your radio show in Atlanta. Im so angry. Who said you had to buy the latest and greatest? They live in a bazillion-square-foot McMansion, and they drive matching luxury cars that they seem to replace every year or so. So far, talking to them has been futile and disastrous. If any minor thing happens to them, they would immediately be homeless. My girlfriends (and likely future wifes) family is the polar opposite. How To Set Boundaries With Your Financially Irresponsible Relatives, Now that shes made $150,000.00 from the sale of her house its burning a hole in her pocket and she doesnt want to understand that as she ages she will need more and more expensive care and have to dip into the $150. Bingo, Bingo! My dad is a owner/operator driver. At some point, you`ll think with humanity and some point practically which is about your babies and future. My dad makes 2x my income and depends on me bc he is wasting his money. You need to get her out to protect your family. He suffers from depression, which is sometimes debilitating. They are both 65. Well first of all, I consider filal responsibilty laws to be outrageously unconstitutional. Let us hope that some of those running the US Government do not find success in killing or mortally injuring Medicaid which ends up paying for a majority of long-term care for the elderly. And now the arguing has commenced between me and my brothers about whos doing what, what everyone should be doing, etc. Im just trying my best to get myself stronger mentality by talking to my therapist once a week but this is always a constant challenging battle for me. Good point. yet they call every weekend to ask about the money .they didnt even raise him??? Then, to add insult to injury, he has spent 100% of the grandiose salary Ive been sending his way. Gambling is not only a way that people become financially unstable and insecure, but it's also one of the signs that someone is irresponsible and immature when it comes to finances. My name is Kim and I wrote one of the first posts in here and had mixed comments. Unfortunately my moms retirement plan has always been to use her kids as a checking account while also being ungrateful for it and even complaining that she only gets 1k a month with a paid off condo and complaining that she sometimes has to babysit (like maybe twice a month and theyre old enough to be left alone, just need an adult with a pulse around to make sure theyre not getting into trouble.). I returned home for only one year and spent the entire time overworking to pay the bills and volunteering for other tours overseas. I hope I will have enough. dealing with financially irresponsible family members My mom has still not gotten a visit from the oldest boys first baby. Any money that crosses their fingers is spent immediately. When you talk about such things, suggest a reasonable compromise.